“Why is this taking so long...if seeing is believing I can’t see this happening…?”
I was walking on the beach this morning enjoying the sound of the sea
lapping on the shingle. My mind was in neutral and I was feeling
gratitude for such a beautiful morning and for the blessing of living by
the coast.
My thoughts drifted and wandered to the realisation
of one my most cherished objectives, and then to the business deal that
could make that possible… and then I was mulling over how this business deal may or may not succeed.
My
thoughts then drifted further into analysis of how much this mattered
to me and all the good things that depended on getting the result I
wanted. I thought of how a successful outcome would enable me to help a
particular person I have been mentoring.
Then I started getting frustrated and within
only a few short minutes my peace of mind and present moment awareness
was shattered and I was feeling tense, anxious and resentful.
Like the characters in "The Matrix" we are fooled by the illusion that what we see is how things really are. Why? Because this is the mind's default setting. It sees:
On this site, we place a lot of emphasis on learning how to think effectively and also on learning and practicing the art of not thinking.
Why? Because a quiet mind is an insightful mind and a resourceful mind.
The most effective way of achieving a quiet mind is with the zen practise of mindfulness.
The purpose of this:
As you become more mindful, you become aware that in the gaps between your thoughts, you are far more than the limited and conventional sense of self of your egoic mind.
If you continue with this practice you come to realise that we are spiritual or energetic beings
and that we really are all interconnected and part of one all-embracing
everything.
It sounds dramatic, but to some degree, the walls of separation fall away - or at least weaken.
The Power Of Expectation Of An Outcome Regardless Of The Lack Of Any Substance To That Expectation.
The placebo effect is based on the
power of belief and expectation of an outcome regardless of the lack of
any substance to that belief or expectation. Considerable research has been undertaken on this and there is a body of evidence that suggests that expectation can have a significant impact on outcome.
This
is not magical thinking, but the interaction of your mind and body and
the positive neurological benefits that can be generated by your belief
and expectation.
How you feel has a major effect on how you think and behave.
How you think and behave has a significant effect on the quality of your response to the events in your life. It is the cumulative effect of these responses that shape your long term life experience.
In an earlier article I shared a personal experience of this where I was grounded in, and fixated on, circumstances.
I was looking outside of myself to circumstances seeking evidence of how I could believe that my intentions were possible.
Eventually
I realised that belief, or expectation, was an internal state, and that
my experience of life was ultimately dependent on that.
Letting go and dropping the “How?” is hard for the ego because it is fixated on seeing is believing and letting go is an act of surrender – of giving up control.
Also
it is a matter of temperament. Those of us who see ourselves as the
leader and in charge can find it particularly difficult. Often we can
only really let go when we reach a stage of desperation.
Alternatively, we can use the following less dramatic and less stressful two-step approach:
[1] The cognitive context
Remind yourself that:
[2] The practice
Further Reading:
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