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The Art Of Persuasion Planning For Success - Here's How To Do It!

To be successful in the art of persuasion you must ensure that certain things happen.

To be successful in the art of persuasion you must establish a framework of what has to happen to get you to that successful buyin to your proposal by the other person.

Circumstances will vary enormously. Persuading a friend to bring their family and join with yours on an Airbnb holiday is one thing and less complex than persuading the leader of a special interest group or a public institution to commit to a programme of activity or to adopt a policy.

The process outlined here can be scaled up or simplified as the circumstances require.

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The Art Of Persuasion Advanced Communication Skills - Gaining Buyin

Create The Environment Where They Want To Buyin to Your Proposal

In order to build the win-win you have to uncover what it is that the other person really wants or needs, and to do that you have to ask questions.

There are a series of steps you need to go through, which make the other person feel comfortable with you and see the purpose in your questions.

In this article we are focused on advanced communication skills that will help you achieve this.

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The Art Of Persuasion The One Fundamental Principle - Create A Win-Win

The art of persuasion is based on the simple idea that you get what you want by enabling the other party to get what they want.

Being a nice friendly person with good inter-personal skills may be a good start but it is not enough.

For this to happen you, as the persuader, need to exercise these skills that will enable this to happen.

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Communication Persuasion And Change - Key Skills To Survive & Succeed

It's not the strongest that survive, nor the most intelligent, but those who are most responsive to change, the most persuasive, and the best communicators.

We are living in an age of unprecedented change.

We are now part of a world of far greater globalisation, connection and interdependence than at any other age in human history.

In the current age, it's not the strongest that survive and succeed, nor the most intelligent, but those who are most responsive to change, the most persuasive, and the best communicators.

Here's why the skills involved in communication persuasion and change are so important:

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The Eisenhower Box - What Is Important Is Seldom Urgent

What Is Important Is Seldom Urgent And What Is Urgent Is Seldom Important.

The Eisenhower Box is a time management and decision-making model devised by President Dwight Eisenhower to help him prioritize and address the many high-stakes issues he had to deal with as a US Army general, Supreme Allied Commander of NATO Forces, and as president of the United States.

The Eisenhower Box has two key elements that are not always present in other time management tools:

[1] It distinguishes between what is urgent and what is important.

[2] It has a ‘delete’ option.

Here's how to prepare to apply The Eisenhower Box:

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Zen Enlightenment [Satori] - The Stink Of Zen

Lost In Our Delusions About Enlightenment.

There is something in human nature - a desire to glamorise, sanctify, objectify and idolise – that elevates people who have offered deep insights to the human race and thus put distance between them and the rest of us.

But these great ones have exactly the same psychological, emotional, and physiological equipment as the rest of us. To put it bluntly – we all share the same basic equipment.

If one can do it so can we all.

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5 Zen Mindsets For Mastery - In Any Area Of Your Life

The Wisdom Of A Person Who Masters In Any Art Is Reflected In Their Every Attitude.

The state and quality of your mind has a very large bearing on the quality of your performance in any area of life that really matters to you.

These 5 zen mindsets for mastery are drawn from the world of martial arts, and are grounded in zen practices.

Fortunately, you do not need to a be a practitioner of martial arts to practice and apply these mindsets - but it does help to have some experience of basic mindfulness practice.

We can all learn and practice these mindsets and benefit by excelling in any area of life that is important to us.

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Dealing With The Toxicity Of Online Dating - 6 Key Tips From A Clinical Psychologist

Toxicity Is The Price Tag Of Accessibility.

In the early days of online dating, users were vetted and had to go through a registration process and agree to comply with a code of conduct designed to ensure that they conducted themselves in a reasonably courteous and civilised manner.

Now in the post-covid era when we have all become so used to ordering just about anything online, with a home-delivery in 24-48 hours, online dating apps are increasingly popular as a quick and easy way to meet new people.

But that accessibility comes at a cost - and the price tag is the toxicity of the behaviour of so many users of these apps.

Here are 6 tips for dealing with it.

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Why Understanding Ergodicity Is Critical To Your Long Term Survival

How Not To Be Fooled By Randomness.

Ergodicity is an ugly word from the world of mathematics. It is an umbrella term for two sets of conditions of probability and outcome.

These two conditions form the basis of a lie that you have been sold by governments, economists and investment "advisors" for the past 150 years.

What may seem to be a dry and boring exercise in semantics and mathematical fancy footwork very rapidly morphs into:

[1] A potent expose of how we have been misled and ripped off by the so called experts, and then offers

[2] An explanation of how to side step these lies and fallacies and position yourself for survival and success.

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Dealing With Imposter Syndrome - Ego Is The Enemy

How You Frame A Situation Has A Profound Impact On How You Respond To It Emotionally.

Imposter syndrome is a psycho-emotional experience of a fear of being found out as incompetent despite ongoing evidence to the contrary.

The effects of imposter syndrome include increased anxiety, under-performance and depression. It can affect mental health and overall functioning. In short, it is debilitating.

In my experience people can, and do, waste a lot of time thinking about their issue and analyzing it, typically how they got it, why they have got it, how it affects them, and talking with other people with the same or similar issue.

This has some value, but it is limited. Being informed about your problem is not going to solve it. The real work lies in dealing with your head and your heart, your thoughts and your emotions.

Here's how it works:

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The Challenges Of The Road Less Traveled

Issues You'll Face When Playing The Long Game.

The challenges of the road less traveled is loosely based around the phrase popularised by M.Scott Peck with his book "The Road Less Traveled".

This article is about the the journey that some of us take as we work towards a long term goal, and that involves hidden steps that we have to figure out as we go.

It involves the sacrifice of short term gains for long-term wins.

The purpose of this article is:

1. To provide a route map
2. To identify the challenges we will face on this journey
3. To offer solutions to overcoming the challenges of the road less traveled.

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How To Benefit From the Unseen Margins - 5 Key Tips For Success

These Unseen Margins Can Have A Very Dramatic Impact On Your Life.

To understand how to benefit from the unseen margins we need to start by understanding what they are and where we find them.

In this article I am going to explain:

# What Unseen Margin Is And How To Measure It

# Where To Find Unseen Margin In An Environment Of Complexity

# 5 Key Tips To Benefit From Unseen Margin

# Guiding Principles To Benefit From Unseen Margin

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The Art Of Thinking Clearly - How To Do More Than Just Survive And Reproduce

3 Key Tips

The art of thinking clearly starts with the sobering realisation that our brains are designed to achieve two things: Survival and Reproduction!

98% of our thinking is unconscious, automatic and impulsive.

This thinking uses our mammalian brain which is all about emotions and is driven by our reptilian brain which is focused on survival.

The art of clear thinking is developed and exercised when we use the more recently evolved parts of our brain. This involves slower thinking that is thoughtful, deliberate, and calculating.

Here are 3 key tips.

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Algorithms to Live By - 5 Useful Rules Of Thumb

5 Useful Heuristics From Algorithms To Live By

The thesis of the book "Algorithms to Live By" is that algorithms developed for computers can be used by people in everyday life in a wide range of situations.

But I don't think that's true because an algorithm is dependent on specific fixed conditions whereas real life is more fluid.

But some of the principles drawn from algorithms can be useful as a mental shortcut - or a "rule of thumb" to solving problems promptly and efficiently without having to take the time to think through your decision.

Here are 5 examples.

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Finding Signal In The Noise - How To Avoid The Noise Bottleneck

The Art Of Being Wise Is The Art Of Knowing What To Overlook.

We are blessed and cursed to live in the digital age. We have access to more information than we can possibly handle yet we struggle to find the signal in the noise.

We are drowning in a tsunami of 24/7 news, a swamp of social media and cesspit of trivia and garbage.

Like junkies seeking their next fix, we gorge on information, blindly seeking substance beneath the froth and bubble.

So how do we find the signal in the noise?

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The Checklist Manifesto - Your Personal Safety Net

A Checklist Is A Safety Net That Encourages Better Results And Prevents Avoidable Mistakes.

The volume and complexity of what we know has exceeded our individual ability to deliver its benefits correctly, safely, or reliably. Knowledge has both saved us and burdened us.

Checklists provide protection against such failures. They remind us of the minimum necessary steps and make them explicit.

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How Not To Be Stupid - 4 Key Tips

How To Avoid The 7 Causes Of Everyday Stupidity.

We are all capable of everyday stupidity as we undertake routine tasks in our business and working lives and also in our personal lives.

This is not about about a lack of intelligence.

This is about is how we regularly overlook or dismiss crucial information that is often right in front of us and the resulting human error can at a minimum cause significant hassle and inconvenience and in the worst cases cause catastrophic loss of life.

Here are 4 tips on how not to be stupid.

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Beginners Mind And The Voice Of Experience

Only The Experts Survived Evolution.

"In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert's there are few."

These are the famous words of Shunryu Suzuki in "Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind" who did so much to promote and popularize Zen Buddhism in the US during the 1960's.

The implication is that to have knowledge and experience of a subject - to have the mind of an expert - is limiting and we should always assume the mindset of a novice with no prior knowledge or expertise and maintain an open mind.

Is this really what Suzuki meant? What exactly was he driving at?

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The Art Of Being Alone Is A Skill

Let's Make Today A Good Day.

You may not have chosen the condition of being alone, and it may have been imposed upon you by circumstances beyond your control, but your response to the situation is within your control.

The art of being alone is a skill.

It is a skill that you can acquire by training, practice and experience.

Here's how to do it.

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Intuition & Anxiety - Are There Angels Or Devils Calling Here?

How To Tell The Difference Between Intuition and Anxiety.

How do you know whether the voice of your intuition is real or just the product of your inner anxiety?

We all struggle with these inner voices as we try to work out whether it is the inner devils of our insecurities and anxieties that are talking, or whether we are hearing the voices of the better angels of our nature offering intuitive guidance.

Here's how to tell whether you are hearing the voice of intuition or the voice of anxiety.

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Like A Prayer - Life Is A Mystery

It Isn't The Process Of Prayer That’s The Problem, It’s The Way It’s Framed.

Regardless of what we feel about Madonna or her song the topic of prayer often arouses strong reactions.

Usually, it is something that we associate with organised religion and for most of us this is not on our current radar.

For the modern person who is not a practitioner or devotee of a faith tradition this framing of prayer does not resonate.

Here is an alternative approach.

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Fear Of Missing Out - "I'll Have What She's Having!"

We Follow The Herd - We Mimic Other People's Choices.

Fear of missing out - or FOMO as it is popularly referred to - is the feeling that everyone else in your peer group is having much more fun than you are.

FOMO is an emotional response of envy, jealousy, inadequacy and at root a deep seated insecurity reflecting fragile self-esteem.

Here's how to deal with it.

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Free - Self Improvement Resources

Exercising Balance and Discernment.

I have just updated these self improvement resources with a number of additional sources of material that are practical and can help you change your life.

Check it out. It's all free!

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Your Higher Self - Your Hardwired Portal To The Universe

This Is The You That Is Beyond Your Thinking Mind.

This is the big you, the transcendent you, the you that is often referred to as your higher consciousness or higher self.

This is the you that acts as your conscious mind's portal to the universe, everything conventionally thought of as outside of you.

This is the you that is connected to every thing and everyone else.This is the non-dualistic you that does not see distinction between 'this and that' and experiences 'everything' as unity.

Here's how to connect with your higher self.

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The Power Of Gratitude - It's Good For You!

Gratitude And Attitude Are Not Challenges, They Are Choices.

The power of gratitude quite simply is that it is good for you!

Many of us were raised by parents who instilled in us the social niceties of saying "please" and "thank you".

Whilst those ingrained courtesies have their place in oiling the wheels of social intercourse there is an important dynamic at work in the expression of gratitude, and it comprises two elements, namely framing and focus.

How you mentally characterize a situation has a profound impact on how you respond to it emotionally and, over time, this has a significant effect on the results you create in your own life and in the lives of others.

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Living With Your Thoughts - 4 Tools To Help You

Develop A Good Working Relationship With Your Mind.

The first step in living with your thoughts is to understand and develop a good working relationship with all areas of your mind.

The key to developing a good working relationship with your mind is to have tools, techniques and resources that work with all levels of your mind.

The second key factor in living with your thoughts is to understand your many selves and learn how to deal with them.

Here are 4 sets of tools to help you that each work with one or more areas of your whole self:

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You Are Not Your Thoughts - How To Escape This Ferris Wheel Of Suffering

The 4 Stages To Dealing With Your Thoughts.

You are not your thoughts, at least that's what your rational mind tells you most of the time, but that's definitely not how it feels at 3 am when you have woken up and can’t get back to sleep.

So how do we deal with our negative thoughts: thoughts of anger, accusation and despair?

There are the four stages in dealing with your thoughts: awareness of your thoughts; understanding your thoughts; accepting your thoughts; and, living with your thoughts.

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Finish What You Start - Action Will Destroy Your Procrastination

4 Key Tips To Help You Finish What You Start.

So why do you fail to finish what you start? Or in my case, why do I fail to even get started?

There is a wealth of information out there about how to avoid procrastination, how to get started and how to finish what you start and yet for so many of us this area is huge problem.

Here are 4 key tips to finish what you start, and all based on extensive personal experience.

You may find some of these tips counter-intuitive, but believe me they do work and are effective.

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Going The Extra Mile - The Power Of One More

Life Is Non-Linear, Which Makes The Rewards Of Continued Effort Disproportionately Big.

In the pursuit of a long term goal you have to go countless extra miles to set yourself up for a big success.

Going the extra mile in the long game is so hard to play because it involves taking a series of very small steps, that people rarely see, persistently and consistently over a long period of time to reach an enormous and visible outcome.

Here are 7 proven strategies, with resources, for going the extra mile in the pursuit of a long term goal.

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Tao Te Ching - Connecting To Your True Source Of Power.

How To Be Lived By The Tao.

The Tao Te Ching is one of those books that many people read, few understand, and even fewer put into practice.

The only way to know the Tao is to experience it, and it is experienced in your heart not your head.

The words in the Tao Te Ching are not a belief system. This is not something that you can grasp intellectually.

"Only in being lived by the Tao can you truly be yourself."

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Dying To Self & Dropping The Ego

Everything Does Not Revolve Around Me.

The two phrases dying to self & dropping the ego are Christian and Buddhist expressions of the same fundamental truth - the need to correct the inbuilt, hardwired tendency to assume that everything revolves around "me".

This is all about achieving a balance between the harmony and peace of the inner world of consciousness and awareness with the requirements of surviving and functioning effectively in the outer world of duality.

This balance occurs when we draw daily guidance and inspiration from our inner world and execute and implement with our thinking minds.

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The Confident Mind - 4 Keys To Peak Performance

Peak Performance Is Meditation In Motion.

Peak performance is grounded in the Tao practise of Wu Wei which means "doing with out doing". This is all about how you take action by being so immersed in profound concentration on what you are doing that you are "in the zone".

The foundation for achieving this state requires you to have achieved unconscious competence in exercising the required skills to undertake the required tasks and activities. i.e. to function on auto-pilot.

Here are the 4 keys to building the confident mind:

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Going With The Flow - The Balance Of Being And Doing

Steer The Boat Each Day Rather Than Plan Ahead Way Into The Future.

Going with the flow is about learning to become comfortable with uncertainty, and learning how to exploit the potential hidden within it, both to feel better in the present and to achieve more success in the future.

Uncertainty is where things happen.

It is where the opportunities – for success, for happiness, for really living – are waiting.

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8 Principles For Success

A Timeless Foundation On Which To Build Your Success.

There are Universal laws and processes that work to support us and guarantee that we achieve all our goals.

But first we need to know what they are, and then follow them!

You will certainly achieve your success and it will be in exact proportion to the clarity and depth of definition of your vision, the persistence of your focus on that vision, the level of your trust and the depth of your gratitude to the process that will deliver your vision.

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The Loving Father

A Love That Will Not Let You Go.

I had a loving father. I knew that I did, but I never felt it.

My father was a good man but very damaged and unable to show his feelings. So I grew up knowing in my head that I was loved, but not feeling it in my heart.

This is a common experience. Many of us, for one reason or another, grow up with little or no sense of a loving father and often we may not even realise the absence of the felt sense of that love until much later in life.

As a child I went through a period of idolising my father and in a way he was like a god to me, but always distant and never felt.

The love of a father has a special quality to it - a deep sense of comfort and all encompassing protection - a feeling of being taken care of, and a source of guidance, direction and inspiration.

Deep within all of us is a basic, primeval need to be loved, loved by someone, loved by anyone, just loved.

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Your Ebenezer Stone Of Help

How To Stay Connected To Your True Source Of Power.

Approximately 2,500 years ago the Israeli town of Kafr Qasim was close to the site of two battles between the ancient Israelis and their neighbours and enemies the Philistines, a war-like people said to have originally migrated from Crete.

In keeping with their belief system, the ancient Israeli's viewed themselves as JHWH's chosen people, and JHWH was their source of guidance and power. But they left JHWH and worshiped foreign gods.

The result was they suffered major military defeats. So they changed back to following JHWH and in the ensuing battle the Israelis prevailed and the Philistines were decisively defeated.

After the battle, the Israelis erected a stone monument and called it "Ebenezer" which means in Hebrew "Stone Of Help".

An Ebenezer stone of help is a constant reminder to stay connected to your true source of power.

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The Stockdale Paradox

How To Deal With The Attrition Factor.

The Stockdale Paradox is named after the late James Stockdale, former vice presidential candidate, naval commander and prisoner of war during the American-Vietnam war.

It became well known having been featured in author and business guru Jim Collins’ book “Good To Great” following extensive interviews between Collins and Stockdale exploring how Stockdale survived 8 years of imprisonment and torture.

Collins’ specific focus was to identify the principles that underpinned Stockdale’s survival and emergence at the end of the war as not only unbroken but as source of practical inspiration.

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Embrace Your Fear Of Failure And Uncertainty

We Celebrate Success And Ignore Failure.

Numerous studies have been undertaken on successful people to understand what it was that they did to become so successful, how they did it and when they did it - and we are led to believe that we too can achieve comparable success if we replicate this.

We are told by the self-help gurus: “You can be anything you want to be, if you put your mind to it.”

But what the self help gurus tell you is just not true.

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The Wilderness Years - 3 Keys To An Exit

How You Got Into The Wilderness Matters Less Than The Lessons To Be Learnt There.

The wilderness years can be described as any lengthy time, longer than a year, that is spend aimlessly; without an immediate purpose, or without a current goal.

The internal psychological, emotional and spiritual landscape of the wilderness state is one of being unable to find one's way, of aloneness, bewilderment, confusion and disconnection.

Here are 3 key lessons to successfully navigating your route through the wilderness years.

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Boredom – Your Greatest Threat to Results

We Live In A World That Glorifies The Results And Not The Process.

We all know what we should be doing, but the trouble with that is that sooner of later we get bored.

The enjoyment fades, the excitement and novelty wears thin, and we're left with the hard grind.

The same old same old - just the boring old basics.

But it’s hard to be above average if you can’t find a way to do the same thing over and over again.

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The Luck Factor - 4 Basic Principles

You Can Master The Art of Creating Your Own Luck By Mastering 4 Key Principles

"The Luck Factor" is the title of a book published 20 years ago based on the research of Professor Richard Wiseman who for more than 10 years, examined the behaviour of 1,000 volunteers who considered themselves lucky or unlucky.

In summary, his findings show that lucky people are people who have consciously or unconsciously mastered the art of generating their own good fortune via four basic principles.

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Your Relationship With Failure Is Critical To Your Success

Just Because You Have A Spectacular Failure Doesn’t Mean The Game Is Over.

The thought that you could fail can really slow you down.

But the problem is not the failure, the problem is your relationship with failure.

And what do you do after a big failure?

You shrug it off and get right back to work the next day working on your goals.

Acknowledge and fix problems one by one. Keep learning and adapting.

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Lost, Stuck & Going Round In Circles?

Are You Lost In Transition?

To be in an alien North African city, late in the evening, in the dark, completely lost in transition from the main market square back to the obscure location of our Riad, with no tools for navigation, and finding it impossible to communicate with the locals, was frightening.

That experience of being lost in transition in the Medina, in Marrakesh, illustrates the locational disorientation we can experience when we experience an unexpected change in circumstances, and especially a change that is imposed upon and that leads to hard times.

Transition is a journey - a psychological and emotional journey - and here's how to cope with it.

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Seeing Is Believing Or Is It?

Do You Believe What You See Or Do You See What You Believe?

Like the characters in "The Matrix" we are fooled by the illusion that what we see is how things really are. Why? Because this is the mind's default setting. It sees:

- Things “out there”.
- A world of circumstances and events and situations.
- The present moment through the lens of its own inner map of reality which it links up seamlessly with its memory of a past and it conjecture and projection of a future.

We confuse this inner map of reality with the world as it is.

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What Difference Did You Make?

What Impact Will You Leave In The Lives Of Others?

If you knew you were going to die tonight and you were given a few minutes to reflect before that happened, what would you say was the meaning of your life?

Generativity occurs when a person shifts his/her energy to care for a change which will help the generations to come.

It can also be seen as ‘making your mark on the world’ by caring for others and accomplishing something beyond yourself for making this world a better place.

What difference will you make? What impact will you leave in the lives of others?

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Compassion Is Selfish And You Need It

If You Want Others To Be Happy, Practice Compassion. If You Want To Be Happy, Practice Compassion.

Compassion is derived from the Latin words "com pati" meaning to suffer with.

It has been defined as an empathic understanding of a person's feelings, accompanied by altruism, or a desire to act on that person's behalf.

In practical terms it is when you relate to someone’s situation, and you want to help them. You see someone having a hard time, and you show up beside them and offer a helping hand.

There are some interesting personal benefits to be derived from the expression of compassion. Not only does the recipient benefit but so does the person who is giving compassion...

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The Placebo Effect - 2 Key Takeaways

The Power Of Expectation Of An Outcome Regardless Of The Lack Of Any Substance To That Expectation.

Traditionally, the placebo effect occurs when false, or dummy, treatments of inert substances [that appear to be real but aren't] are administered during trials on new drugs, and patients still see their symptoms improve.

About 1 in 3 people report that they are feeling better after they have received a placebo. However this has increased to 60% in certain recent drugs trials.

The power and the benefit of the placebo lies in how it makes people feel.

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The Red Pill

This Is What Will Happen After You Take It.

"This is your last chance," rebel leader Morpheus tells Neo, holding a coloured pill in each hand. “You take the blue pill, the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes."

Taking the red pill is a symbolic action and a metaphor for an experience of enlightenment and transcendent awakening.

This article is describes my experience of what happens when you do.

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Transformational Life Hacks

This Has To Be One Of The Best Ways For Living The Best Life You Can Possibly Live.

An online search on life hacks will invariably provide you with multiple links to ways of increasing your productivity and efficiency in many areas of life.

But in this article I want to raise your sights and share two simple-to-understand science based principles that when combined will, over-time, transform your health, wealth and happiness.

I will tell you what to do, how to do it, and why you most likely won't!

There are no gimmicks here and this is absolutely not about how to "get rich quick".

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