Self Improvement Articles
Keeping It Real
The following self improvement articles develop have been written to provide background, context and support to the main themes of this site.
They are indexed under the relevant themes - see below.
All articles are cross-referenced and linked to each other and to other relevant articles on this site and also to external third party material and resources.
Keeping It Real - Supporting Articles
Much of this material is contained within this free Ebook:
The basics
The Duck Test And The Truth That Comes In Strange Disguises
How Things Really Are - The Inbuilt Design Flaws
Its My Life Or Is It - Everything Does Not Revolve Around Me
Its All About These 2 Simple Things
4 Big Reasons Why We Get Stuck In Our Attempts At Personal Change
The Illusion Of A Separate Self - Windows 11 With Self Awareness!
How Do I Change And Why Is It So Hard?
Here's why we think the way we do
Your Inner Map Of Reality - Here's Why You Think The Way You Do
Life beyond your thinking mind
The Conscious Mind Is Limited - Be Aware And Be Prepared
Duality & life beyond your thinking mind
How to stop thinking and the benefits!
Inspiration from your intuition and higher self
Your higher self - relax and trust it
Guest articles on meditation
Using The Present Moment As a Place to Just Be
The Most Important Reasons to Meditate
Articles to support your understanding of mindfulness practice
Why do we think the way we do?
Mindfulness is a spontaneous state
Freeing yourself from your mind
My experience of mindfulness in situations of imposed change
Working with the selves
Reflections & Experiences
Reflections & Experiences - All Articles
Understanding "The Energy Of Life"
Living In A Participatory Universe
A Portrait Of A Person Connected To The Field Of Intention
Working With "The Energy Of Life"
Dying To Self - To Gain All Give All
Happiness Is A State Of Mind - Choose Joy
Dance Into The Light - How To Stop Chasing Your Tail
Seeing Is Believing - Or Is It?
Lost For Words - Experience Truth
Beyond Belief - How To Be Free From Views And Words
De-Stressing
Emotional Freedom Technique: Dealing With Your Anxieties & Stress
The Stockdale Paradox - Coping With The Attrition Factor
Social Contagion - You Become The Company You Keep
Lost In Transition - How To Cope With Hard Times
Lost In Transition - Hanging In There For The Long Haul
The Power Of Framing And Why It Matters
Coronavirus - How To Cope With Social Distancing, Working From Home And Other Anxieties
Manifesting Success
Embracing Uncertainty & Failure Is The better Option
Your Relationship With Failure
The Luck Factor - The Power Of Expectation
Secret Of Success - Identify Your Core Desire
Your Point Of Focus - Is Helping You Or Hindering You
The Law of Response and Outcome
Empowering Practices With "The Energy Of Life"
How To Stay Connected To Your True Source Of Power
How To Overcome Fear And Perform Powerfully
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