Dance Into The Light - How To Stop Chasing Your Tail

Dance Into The Light

"Come dance with me
Come on and dance into the light
Everybody dance into the light

There'll be no more hiding in shadows of fear
There'll be no more chains to hold you
The future is yours - you hold the key
And there are no walls with freedom"


Phil Collins Dance Into The Light




In the current conditions in June 2020 as the Covid-19 lockdown is lifting and many of us are feeling anxious. I outlined how adopting a mindful approach is a key way of dealing with these uncertainties.

I can say from personal experience that the mindful approach to life is an effective way of becoming aware of our habitual thought patterns and emotional states and weakening their hold on us to the point that we no longer self identify with these thoughts and states.

As the mindfulness teachers and leading practitioners will tell you, making peace with the present moment, as the Buddha put it “the suchness” of life, and accepting what is, are the gateways to allowing this awareness to develop.



Creating Hell On Earth

However I have to also say that in my experience I have found that all too often we are too unconscious and self-identified with these states to be able to make much if any progress. As Eckhart Tolle says:

"To create suffering without recognizing it - this is the essence of unconscious living; this is being totally in the grip of the ego.

In this way, you make yourself and others suffer and don't even know that you are doing it, don't know that you are creating hell on earth.
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The reason why I believe that there are occasions when for some of us, at certain stages in our lives, we find it particularly difficult to practise and benefit from the mindful approach is that we are too subsumed within our underlying and deeply embedded negative energetic states.




Why We End Up Chasing Our Tails

To Make Up For The Impacts Of The Unintentional Miss-Creations Of Our Negative Energy.

We live in an energetic universe and, contrary to what we are brought up to believe, it is not our actions that generate the results we experience in life it is our energetic states.

Many of us are from a western influenced background and so are culturally conditioned to an action orientation, and thus we automatically place a great value on activity.

The effect of social media

A current example of this is how we are influenced by social media which tricks you into thinking that unless you are running three businesses, attending celebrity functions, have learned a new language and a thousand fun hobbies that you are not doing well enough...

Given that so many of our actions are based on underlying energetic - or dominant emotional - states of fear, doubt, worry or other ego based states of greed, pride and other forms of self-centredness, it is hardly surprising that we do not experience the joy, fulfilment and inner peace that we mistakenly believe these things will deliver.

We go unconscious...

To counter our dissatisfactions and misery we initially go unconscious and over-indulge in all the usual distractions...

...then the me-time focus

Then we resurface and embark on yet more activity but this time with a me-time focus such as various forms of relaxation, health driven pursuits and of course the ubiquitous personal development.

We recharge our batteries and get back on track only to revert to type with our usual activities of miss-creation driven by underlying negative energetic states.

The result of all this is that we end up repeating the cycle and "chasing our tails" to make up for the impacts of the unintentional miss-creations of our negative energy.

Buddhists refer to this state as samsara.




Dance Into The Light - And Grace Will Lead Us Home

A mindfulness based approach will, over time, enable us to break this cycle of chasing our tails.

However, I have found that it is possible to accelerate, or supercharge, this process via a direct spiritual approach to our higher self - the spiritual part of our psyche. In my experience this cuts straight through to the energetic aspect of the problem.

Our higher self, the "God part" of us, the higher power - call it whatever you want - I call it The Energy Of Life - has the power to unleash a transformation that can not only stop us chasing our tails but that can change us in ways that we can barely imagine.

I am talking about a spiritual rebirth, a new life and sense of purpose, and an identity that retains the best of us and drops the dross and that enables us to stay aligned to The Energy Of Life.

But in order for this to happen we have to ask for it!

This article, this website and every personal expression of spiritual experience that I offer whilst not specifically Christian nor Buddhist nor from any other faith tradition nevertheless draws heavily on these expressions wherever I have found them to point to a universal truth - specifically please see:

Energy Goes Where Energy Flows
Living In A Participatory Universe
The Power Of Gratitude
The Loving Father
A Portrait Of A Person Connected To The Field Of Intention

In this context, the hymn and popular song "Amazing Grace" is a powerful message and metaphor of spiritual healing, forgiveness and the change and transformation that is possible regardless of the depths of the personal hell in which we have sunk and in which we are stuck.

Through many dangers, toils and snares
We have already come.
T'was grace that brought us safe thus far
And grace will lead us home.


This is a Christian song about a Christian expression of spiritual awakening, regeneration and transformation. The grace that is referred to is the grace of God or as we refer to it in this series of articles The Energy Of Life.



Let's Call This A Prayer

I want to suggest to you that the most powerful and direct route to changing your dominant energetic state is by becoming humble, and reaching out to your higher power/higher self/God/The Energy Of Life and asking for spiritual help.

Let's call this a prayer.

Don't get hung up on the 'God dilemma'. Don't put a label on it. As Aldous Huxley put it: "The finding of God is a coming to one’s self."

Drop your ego, stop thinking, sit down somewhere quiet, better still kneel down and say - and feel it - as you say it - and mean it:

"Please help me.
I can not control my thoughts and feelings I need your help.
Please fill me with your spirit of grace and the feeling of your peace.
Please help me to live a life filled with positive energy.
Please show me what to do and lead my in your path.
Thank you."

May this be the beginning of a new relationship between you and your higher self/higher power - or the The Energy Of Life as I refer to it.

May this become the most important relationship in your life and the foundation of your life and the grounding of your certainty.





Dance Into The Light - Phil Collins

I want to close with a powerful and high energy song from Phil Collins and that I feel is especially appropriate to the theme of this piece and the dark times that we are all experiencing and will emerge from:






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