How To Make Better Decisions

By Avoiding The Narrative Trap

To understand the truth we have to look at all the known facts, and see the whole picture which is often not as binary as presented.

Make Better Decisions By Avoiding The Narrative Trap. Graphic

One of the best ways to make better decisions is to have a deeper understanding of the many things that might stop that happening.

We are far less rational than we like to think we are and we sabotage our thought processes by falling victim to our cognitive biases, our limited attention spans, and our tendency to overestimate our abilities in areas that are outside our circle of competence.

In this article we are going to focus on another often overlooked factor, and that is the stories that we tell ourselves, the narratives that we weave, and to look closely at how we can avoid what is referred to as the narrative fallacy.

Why Story Telling Is A Terrible Way To Make Better Decisions

Why Story Telling Is A Terrible Way To Make Better Decisions. Graphic

We are hard wired to tell stories and these stories are our way of trying to find meaning in what so often feel likes a random, chaotic and meaningless universe.

Psychologists have developed a theory about this called narrative theory which offers an explanation as to how we construct our identities through storytelling.

The human brain has evolved a wide range of modules which filter, interpret and explain and interpret what's going on in the world around us and all with the primary purpose of helping us to survive.

There is module in our brains that seeks explanations and establishes causality - or what it thinks is causality.

Neuroscientist Dr. Michael Gazzaniga describes this module as The Interpreter as it seeks explanations and explains causality in what is happening in the events that we see and experience, and it then provides us with a plausible end to end narrative of what has happened and why.

Cause & Effect Explanations

The interpreter is constantly spinning stories and supplying causal explanations to the data it’s being fed; doing the best job it can with what it’s got to keep us alive and reproducing.

This may make you feel safe and in control, but it is so often wrong and it causes you to make sub-optimal decisions to which you are oblivious  until you reap the consequences.

Falling Victim to The Narrative Fallacy

This means that we fall foul of the narrative fallacy.

This can best be described as a reverse mirror mental trap that causes us:

  1. To sequence things in a straight line.
  2. To establish a set of cause-and-effect links to our knowledge of the past.

As Nassim Taleb points out: we are overwhelmed with so much sensory information that our brains have no choice but to put things in a sequenced order and our brains operate as a linear scanner. This is the only way that we can process the world around us.

The Filter of Beliefs and Cognitive Biases

The difficulty with narrative is that it fools us into believing that we can explain the past through cause-and-effect when we hear a story that supports our prior beliefs and we become subject to confirmation bias.

For example, stories of individual success in the fields of sport or business resonate with readers by offering what the human mind needs: a simple message of success and failure that identifies clear causes and ignores the determinative power of luck and the inevitability of regression.

These stories may serve many wonderful functions: teaching, motivating, inspiring but the problem is that we too often believe that these stories are predictive.


Gazzaniga describes the way in which our brains can be tricked and manipulated as“hijacking”.

When this happens it leads to strange explanations and bad decisions. This is evidenced in much of the ridiculous behavior and stupid narratives we see around us.

Your brain can be hijacked in so many ways, for example it:

Fake Narratives

The collective and cumulative impact of hijacking is what causes the tsunami of fake narratives that pour out of multiple social media channels 24/7 and that influence so many already biased minds into dark areas without any direct responsibility.

Anonymously, we are shown "facts" that we want to believe and share in order to feed that hate, to propel that anger.

This failure to see the whole picture, in many cases this failure to even realise that there is a bigger picture, leads so many people to seeing things in simplistic binary terms.

Our paleolithic ancestors, believed what they saw. But with the evolution of language and more sophisticated cognitive capabilities modern people believe what they hear.

We no longer see and believe, we hear and conclude  - but without checking the facts.

The Tyranny Of The Intolerant Minority

The compound effect of  all of these issues has led to the phenomena of the "Tyranny Of The Intolerant Minority" which occurs when an intolerant minority is present in a society where the majority are flexible and accommodating, and have no strong values-based leadership.

What happens is that the flexible, tolerant majority accept the intolerant minority position but the intolerant minority do not reciprocate.

The outcome of this is that rather than the minority being assimilated into the flexible majority, the flexible majority become assimilated into the inflexible minority and the majority of us become ruled by their unbalanced and extreme beliefs.

This in turn makes it difficult if not impossible to make better decisions.

In Summary

Story telling is a terrible way to make better decisions because:

  1. Great stories edit out distracting realities. The cognitive biases involved in creating great stories makes decisions seem straightforward - almost obvious, and always binary.  When it comes down to a choice between story and reality the "great story" will always take precedence over reality. But in reality... reality always wins.
  2. Great stories create group think. Few people want to speak out and spoil a good story and so great stories invoke powerful groupthink. Groupthink kills good decision-making.
  3. Great stories obscure other alternatives. The powerful and evocative narrative leads to tunnel vision that presents decisions as a fait accompli.

How To Make Better Decisions - A Checklist

Checklist For Making Better Decisions. Graphic

Each time you face a decision use these steps, as a tool to counteract the narrative fallacy and your biases and, to help you make better decisions:

  1. Accept the potential influence of narratives on decision-making and that many of the influences to which you are exposed fall into the category of partial truths masquerading as the whole picture.
  2. Identify the dominant narratives that are impacting your decision-making and determine how much of the content of these narratives reflect the whole known truth and how much are partial truths.
  3. Write down three to five pre-existing personal or organisational goals or priorities that will be impacted by the decision you are making and consider those impacts and their consequences. Focus on consequences not probability.
  4. Write down at least three or more realistic alternatives.  Prioritise function over form. Think the unthinkable.
  5. Write down the most important information you are missing. Find the signal in the noise.
  6. Write down the impact your decision will have one year in the future. Considering the expected outcome of the decision will help you clarify (a) the transitions and emotional costs [as well as financial] and (b) the benefits and when and where they will arise.
  7.  Involve a team of at least two but no more than six other stakeholders to gain wider perspectives and reduce your biases. This will also increase buy-in.
  8. Write down what was decided, as well as why, to establish a basis to measure the results of the decision.
  9. Schedule a decision follow-up in phased intervals of one to three months. This will facilitate learnings and corrections from what has happened.

Resources To Help You Make Better Decisions

Nassim Taleb - Focus On The Consequences And Not On The Probability

What Is Truth - How To Tell A Partial Truth From The Whole Truth?

Finding Signal In The Noise - How To Avoid The Noise Bottleneck

Thinking Fast And Slow - How Good Judgement Leads To Better Decisions

Improved Decision Making - Use Probabilistic Thinking

Getting From A to B Is Not Aways A Straight Line

Change Questions To Change Your Outcomes

How Not To Be Stupid - 4 Key Tips

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