The Law Of Response And Outcome
Knowing how to think effectively matters because the outcomes that you experience are determined by your responses to the events in your life.
The strength and quality of your response is determined by the skills
and the experience you bring to it - and that is all based on knowing
how to think effectively.
Event x Response = Outcome
All of this is especially relevant as the world slowly emerges from post Covid-19 lockdown and starts to come to terms with the societal, economic and financial consequences.
Everything I share on this site is all based on real-life practical experience from my own personal journey.
This site is all about personal development and spiritual growth. It is based on practices, rather than beliefs, that you apply and that will have a profound and positive effect on your life.
To be clear, when I use the word "spiritual" I am not referring to any particular faith tradition nor am I seeking to push or promote any particular belief or faith position. Think of this in terms of higher awareness or higher consciousness.
To really learn how to think effectively we have to learn and master the art of not thinking.
A quiet mind is an insightful mind and a resourceful mind.
The most effective way of achieving this is with the zen practise of mindfulness.
Zen simply means "direct experience in awakening" - or "direct experience in seeing things as they really are".
Your mind isn't going to stop thinking. The goal of mindfulness isn't to suppress thinking, but to surpass it and to experience that you are not your thoughts and to learn how to react and respond to your thoughts.
The outcomes that you experience are determined by your responses to the events in your life.
Our brains process and organize information in a variety of ways. We have a wide range of thinking processes that are built into our brains; we use them all the time and automatically. But we don’t always use them efficiently. We need to learn thinking skills.
Thinking critically, deliberately and systematically processing information enables you to make better decisions and generally understand things better.
Focusing on how to think not what to think, you know how to apply the most appropriate cognitive processes to the task in hand.
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Why "Zen Tools"?
I have called this site "Zen Tools" for 4 reasons:
(1) Because it features a range of tools that support and develop mindfulness practises.
(2) Because it creates a mindfulness based framework and foundation for learning how to think effectively.
(3) Because it teaches you how to think effectively and provides the tools and resources to do so.
(4) Because it teaches you a range of practical skills that enable you to renew your mind.
In these tough times:
The better your response to events - the better the outcomes you will experience.
My name is Stephen Warrilow and I'm based in Singapore and the UK.
Everything that you read from here onwards is based entirely on my own direct, lived experience of how to think effectively, how to stop thinking and how to cope with tough times. All of the resources that I suggest or recommend are things that I have done (or still do) and that work for me.
I am NOT a therapist, priest, Zen master, psychotherapist, mullah, rabbi, teacher or counselor and I am no way qualified to offer any form of professional support or guidance on how to change your life - I am just a simple businessman.
If you are undergoing any form of counseling, professional treatment or support (or if you feel you need to be) please stick with what your professional expert is telling you – or seek professional help (if you need to.)
Nothing I share with you will harm you, quite the contrary, but experience has shown that it is far more beneficial to follow one path or line of treatment and stick to it for the duration of the treatment – and as I have already told you, I am not a professional!
It’s probably best to think of the material on this site as one fellow traveller sharing with others…
Why Am I Doing This?
The internationally renowned priest, author and respected professor Henri Nouwen once said that:
"What is most personal is most universal... by giving words to these intimate experiences I can make my life available to others."
Without trying to sound too pious, precious or up my own backside about it, I feel that this is the energy behind where I’m now coming from now.
OK, more than enough said!
Changing
How To Think
Focusing On How To Think Not What To Think
How To Benefit From The Law Of Response And Outcome
Understanding And Relating To Consciousness
These articles develop and support the main themes outlined above.
This is a series of articles that I started during the 2020 Covid-19 lockdown. All reflections, experiences, practical tips and suggestions are based on my direct personal experiences.
Subjects covered are consistent with the themes of this site and fall into the following broad categories:
Understanding "The Energy Of Life"
Working With "The Energy Of Life"
Many of the subjects are interlinked and the articles are extensively cross referenced and linked. Please do comment and add thoughts of your own. This is a wonderful time for sharing.
Can you coax your mind from its wandering
and keep to original oneness?
Can you deal with the most vital matters by letting events take their course?
Can you step back from your own mind
and thus understand all things?
[Tao Te Ching]
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