Reflections & Experiences

Practical Tips & Suggestions

This is a series of articles that I started during the 2020 Covid-19 lockdown. All reflections, experiences, practical tips and suggestions are based on my direct personal experiences.

Subjects covered are consistent with the themes of this site:

- Understanding "The Energy Of Life"

- Working With "The Energy Of Life"

- De-Stressing

- Manifesting Success

- Empowering Practices

The articles shown below are sequenced new to old. Many of the subjects are interlinked and the articles are extensively cross referenced and linked. Please do comment and add thoughts of your own. This is a wonderful time for sharing.

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Reflections

Walking The Talk - Practising What You Preach 
The world of self-improvement, self-help and personal development is full of people making money out of their websites and blogs, it is a multi-billion …

Rather Than Trying To Win, Focus On Avoiding Losses 
"Amateurs win the game when their opponent loses points, experts win the game by gaining points. " (Shane Parrish) Simon Ramo, a scientist and statistician, …

Why Embracing Failure And Uncertainty Is The Better Option 
(Embracing Failure As An Intrinsic Part Of Science – Dr Jon Tennant) We Celebrate Success And Ignore Failure Most motivational speeches have …

Alive Time vs. Dead Time 
The phrase “Alive time vs. Dead time” was coined by popular author Robert Green and it has been popularized by blogger and writer Ryan Holiday. …

We Have More In Common Than That Which Divides Us 
"We are more united and have far more in common with each other, than things that which divides us." These words were spoken by UK MP Jo Cox in her …

I Took The Red Pill 
The Red Pill "This is your last chance," rebel leader Morpheus tells Neo, holding a coloured pill in each hand. “You take the blue pill, the story …

Your Relationship With Failure 
How To Overcome Fear of Failure Bob Phibbs Your relationship with failure is critical to your success. I am British, and in our culture we …

Social Contagion - You Become The Company You Keep 
"Emotional Contagion" by Mikel Jaso What Is Social Contagion? During the Covid-19 lockdown we have all gone to great lengths to avoid this …

Lost In Transition - Hanging In There For The Long Haul 
Lost In Transition - The Long Haul This is the second part of this two part series that commenced with: Lost In Transition - How To Cope With Hard Times …

Lost In Transition - How To Cope With Hard Times 
Lost In Transition - A Story From Morocco It was late one warm summer’s evening in Marrakesh. We had wandered around the souks and then enjoyed a pleasant …

Beyond Belief - How To Be Free From Views And Words 
Beyond belief? The traditional meaning of the phrase beyond belief is to describe something as so incredible that it is impossible to believe that …

Lost For Words - Experience Truth 
Contemplating her husband's grave Lost For Words - Experiences A young family friend was tragically killed in a motorcycle accident. Many of his …

Dying To Self - To Gain All Give All  
“Self-Immolation” 2012 by Tashi Norbu Dying To Self - Experiences It was early one sunny summer morning, and I went out for a walk along the …

How To Stay Connected To Your True Source Of Power 
Depiction of the Battle of Eben-Ezer from the Dura-Europos synagogue (pre-244 AD) The Israeli town of Kafr Qasim is a hill-top city with an Arab …

How To Live With Your Thoughts 
Living With Your Thoughts - Background In the first part of this two part series, You Are Not Your Thoughts , we set the scene as to how we deal with …

Secret Of Success - Identify Your Core Desire  
"When you seek Zen as you now seek air - THEN you will find it." Secret Of Success Identifying Core Desires When I was in my mid to late teens …

Your Point Of Focus - Is Helping You Or Hindering You 
Point Of Focus I lacked a point of focus in the early years of my business career as a professional salesman. I started out selling capital goods such …

Seeing Is Believing - Or Is It?  
Seeing Is Believing & How Things Ought To Be I was walking on the beach this morning enjoying the sound of the sea lapping on the shingle. My mind was …

The Luck Factor - The Power Of Expectation 
The Luck Factor And The Power Of Expectation A significant component of the power of any success strategy lies in the expectation that you will achieve …

How To Be Happy - Be Grateful 
How To Be Happy? There are 2 types of happiness. There is the happiness that we feel in response to an external event or circumstance. An obvious example …

The Secret Of My Success 
The Secret Of My Success - The Background Approximately 25 years ago I found myself caught up in a set of circumstances over which I had no control, …

The Power Of Framing And Why It Matters 
What Is Framing? Framing theory is about communication and how we create meaning in our communications. Framing is about how we define context, make …

Dance Into The Light - How To Stop Chasing Your Tail 
Dance Into The Light "Come dance with me Come on and dance into the light Everybody dance into the light There'll be no more hiding in shadows of …

Going With The Flow - Wu Wei 
Going With The Flow Wu Wei - The Action of Non-Action The Taoist practise of wu wei is about "doing without doing" or living your life in alignment with …

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The Three Minute Power Pause 
The Three Minute Power Pause - Background And Introduction The Three Minute Power Pause is a very simple but powerful technique developed and taught …

How To Overcome Fear And Perform Powerfully Now 
How To Overcome Fear And Perform Powerfully Learning how to overcome fear and perform powerfully is a skill that we all need to acquire as fear of failure …

Understanding The Power Of Gratitude 
The Benefits Of Gratitude Professor Robert A. Emmons is reported to be a world leading expert on gratitude. Based on the research evidence of a study …

Practising The Power Of Now 
Practising The Power Of Now Here's how I started practising The Power of Now: When I initially discovered mindfulness I was at a stage in my life when …

Portrait Of A Person Connected To The Field Of Intention 
The Field Of Intention The field of intention is a subject about which the late Dr. Wayne W. Dyer spoke and published extensively. In his book "The Power …

Reflections In A Calm Place 
Mindfulness Bell - 5 Minute Meditation This recording from The Guide Meditation Site contains nothing but the pure sound of a Tibetan singing …

Energy Of Life - The 4 Keys 
Energy Of Life The energy of life is the source from which all form and substance is created. We live in a universe of energy - literally and not just …

Coronavirus - How To Cope With Social Distancing, Working From Home And Other Anxieties 
Coronavirus has changed everything. Most of us are now working from home. We are all experiencing the effects of “social distancing” and other impacts …

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