Reflections & Experiences
Practical Tips & Suggestions
This is a series of articles that I started during the 2020 Covid-19 lockdown. All reflections, experiences, practical tips and suggestions are based on my direct personal experiences.
Subjects covered are consistent with the themes of this site:
- Understanding "The Energy Of Life"
- Working With "The Energy Of Life"
- De-Stressing
- Manifesting Success
- Empowering Practices
The articles shown below are sequenced new to old. Many of the subjects are interlinked and the articles are extensively cross referenced and linked. Please do comment and add thoughts of your own. This is a wonderful time for sharing.
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Reflections
Walking The Talk - Practising What You Preach
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Rather Than Trying To Win, Focus On Avoiding Losses
"Amateurs win the game when their opponent loses points, experts win the game by gaining points. " (Shane Parrish)
Simon Ramo, a scientist and statistician, …
Why Embracing Failure And Uncertainty Is The Better Option
(Embracing Failure As An Intrinsic Part Of Science – Dr Jon Tennant)
We Celebrate Success And Ignore Failure
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Alive Time vs. Dead Time
The phrase “Alive time vs. Dead time” was coined by popular author Robert Green and it has been popularized by blogger and writer Ryan Holiday.
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We Have More In Common Than That Which Divides Us
"We are more united and have far more in common with each other, than things that which divides us."
These words were spoken by UK MP Jo Cox in her …
I Took The Red Pill
The Red Pill "This is your last chance," rebel leader Morpheus tells Neo, holding a coloured pill in each hand. “You take the blue pill, the story …
Your Relationship With Failure
How To Overcome Fear of Failure Bob Phibbs
Your relationship with failure is critical to your success.
I am British, and in our culture we …
Social Contagion - You Become The Company You Keep
"Emotional Contagion" by Mikel Jaso
What Is Social Contagion? During the Covid-19 lockdown we have all gone to great lengths to avoid this …
Lost In Transition - Hanging In There For The Long Haul
Lost In Transition - The Long Haul This is the second part of this two part series that commenced with: Lost In Transition - How To Cope With Hard Times …
Lost In Transition - How To Cope With Hard Times
Lost In Transition - A Story From Morocco It was late one warm summer’s evening in Marrakesh. We had wandered around the souks and then enjoyed a pleasant …
Beyond Belief - How To Be Free From Views And Words
Beyond belief? The traditional meaning of the phrase beyond belief is to describe something as so incredible that it is impossible to believe that …
Lost For Words - Experience Truth
Contemplating her husband's grave
Lost For Words - Experiences A young family friend was tragically killed in a motorcycle accident. Many of his …
Dying To Self - To Gain All Give All
“Self-Immolation” 2012 by Tashi Norbu
Dying To Self - Experiences It was early one sunny summer morning, and I went out for a walk along the …
How To Stay Connected To Your True Source Of Power
Depiction of the Battle of Eben-Ezer from the Dura-Europos synagogue (pre-244 AD)
The Israeli town of Kafr Qasim is a hill-top city with an Arab …
How To Live With Your Thoughts
Living With Your Thoughts - Background In the first part of this two part series, You Are Not Your Thoughts , we set the scene as to how we deal with …
Secret Of Success - Identify Your Core Desire
"When you seek Zen as you now seek air - THEN you will find it."
Secret Of Success Identifying Core Desires When I was in my mid to late teens …
Your Point Of Focus - Is Helping You Or Hindering You
Point Of Focus I lacked a point of focus in the early years of my business career as a professional salesman. I started out selling capital goods such …
Seeing Is Believing - Or Is It?
Seeing Is Believing & How Things Ought To Be I was walking on the beach this morning enjoying the sound of the sea lapping on the shingle. My mind was …
The Luck Factor - The Power Of Expectation
The Luck Factor And The Power Of Expectation A significant component of the power of any success strategy lies in the expectation that you will achieve …
How To Be Happy - Be Grateful
How To Be Happy?
There are 2 types of happiness. There is the happiness that we feel in response to an external event or circumstance. An obvious example …
The Secret Of My Success
The Secret Of My Success - The Background Approximately 25 years ago I found myself caught up in a set of circumstances over which I had no control, …
The Power Of Framing And Why It Matters
What Is Framing? Framing theory is about communication and how we create meaning in our communications.
Framing is about how we define context, make …
Dance Into The Light - How To Stop Chasing Your Tail
Dance Into The Light "Come dance with me
Come on and dance into the light
Everybody dance into the light
There'll be no more hiding in shadows of …
Going With The Flow - Wu Wei
Going With The Flow Wu Wei - The Action of Non-Action The Taoist practise of wu wei is about "doing without doing" or living your life in alignment with …
The Three Minute Power Pause
The Three Minute Power Pause - Background And Introduction The Three Minute Power Pause is a very simple but powerful technique developed and taught …
How To Overcome Fear And Perform Powerfully Now
How To Overcome Fear And Perform Powerfully Learning how to overcome fear and perform powerfully is a skill that we all need to acquire as fear of failure …
Change Comes From Within
Why Change Comes From Within For much of my life I didn't understand that change comes from within, I used to believe that change was something that …
Understanding The Power Of Gratitude
The Benefits Of Gratitude Professor Robert A. Emmons is reported to be a world leading expert on gratitude. Based on the research evidence of a study …
Practising The Power Of Now
Practising The Power Of Now Here's how I started practising The Power of Now: When I initially discovered mindfulness I was at a stage in my life when …
A Portrait Of A Person Connected To The Field Of Intention
The Field Of Intention The field of intention is a subject about which the late Dr. Wayne W. Dyer spoke and published extensively. In his book "The Power …
Reflections In A Calm Place
Mindfulness Bell - 5 Minute Meditation
This recording from The Guide Meditation Site contains nothing but the pure sound of a Tibetan singing …
Energy Of Life - The 4 Keys
Energy Of Life The energy of life is the source from which all form and substance is created. We live in a universe of energy - literally and not just …
Coronavirus - How To Cope With Social Distancing, Working From Home And Other Anxieties
Coronavirus has changed everything. Most of us are now working from home. We are all experiencing the effects of “social distancing” and other impacts …
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