Lost In Transition - A Personal Story
It was late one warm summer’s evening in Marrakesh. We had wandered
around the souks and then enjoyed a pleasant dinner in a restaurant just
off the main market square in the Medina and it was time to head back
to the Riad where we were staying.
The Medina was built around
1122 and is the old town in Marrakesh. It is a twisting labyrinth
comprising 19-kilometers of tiny streets with pink walls, and poor
lighting and it can feel like a scary place to walk through at night,
especially if you don’t know where you are going!
The walk into
the centre undertaken in daylight had been quite pleasant, but walking
back in the dark wasn’t an option so we took a taxi.
The heart of darkness
Unfortunately
the taxi driver misunderstood the rather obscure address of our Riad
and assumed wrongly that we wanted to go some late night venue on the
other side of the Medina! Language difficulties made it impossible to
rectify so we set off on foot.
We asked a succession of
strangers for directions and yet we seemed to be going deeper into what
was rapidly beginning to feel like Conrad’s “Heart Of Darkness”.
With hindsight I am sure the locals who tried to help us were genuine
and had good intentions, but after about an hour or two of this we were
totally disoriented and frankly scared.
Totally lost
To
be in an alien North African city, late in the evening, in the dark,
completely lost in transition from the main market square back to the
obscure location of our Riad, with no tools for navigation, and finding
it impossible to communicate with the locals, was frightening.
To
cut a long story short we eventually found someone who seemed to
understand where we were trying to get to and it was with enormous
relief when we recognised the alley where our Riad was located.
Needless to say, the following day we moved to another Riad in the centre adjacent to the main market square.
That experience of being lost in transition in the Medina illustrates
the locational disorientation we can experience when we experience an
unexpected change in circumstances, and especially a change that is
imposed upon and that leads to hard times.
At the time of
writing, with the world emerging from Covid-19 lockdown, with the effects of the Russia - Ukraine war and with our
economies strangled, business failures and unemployment rising and our
national governments flailing around like drowning men clutching at
straws I think it is fair to say that many of us are currently
experiencing hard times as a direct result of imposed change!
The
purpose of this article is to set out a framework for understanding
what is happening to you and to go beyond the circumstantial changes and
to address the inner psychological and emotional impacts and how you
can deal with those as well.
The additional objective is to offer a range of practical and proven resources to empower you to cope with these hard times.
The
first and key point to make is that there is a distinction between the
events, situations and circumstances that are imposed on you and your
inner response to these things.
In the world of change management this is known as "transition".
The fundamental difference between change and transition
William Bridges was one of the first thought leader’s in the field of organisational transformation and change management to recognise the fundamental difference between change and transition, namely:
Transition is a 3 stage process and it is psychological and emotional journey
Without an effective transition through that process you will likely
become stuck or lost in transition.
Bridges Transition Model involves a three-phase process:
For more in-depth reading and resource please refer to an extensive article with resources that I wrote on the Bridges Transition Model.
William Bridges developed his model for the context of organisational change, but it is very applicable to situations of personal change and I commend it to you.
Bridges' transition model outlined above provides a well recognised and
attested road map for what you are likely to be experiencing, or
eventually will be experiencing, as you enter the transition phase of
your personal experience of hard times. Now I want to focus on,
and offer you, some practical tools and resources that I have used many
times, that will empower you and show you how to cope with the tough
times you may be experiencing when you are lost in transition. Here are 5 simple questions to help you cut through the confusion. Read and apply each of these techniques. ****************** Free Download: One Page Summary Sheet With Action Points & Resources
Empowering Resources For When You Are Lost In Transition
(1) Are you in a mess and having a really tough time right now?
(2) Three "under the radar" powerful techniques
(3) You are NOT your thoughts
"It’s
3 am and you have woken up and can’t get back to sleep. You lie in bed
tossing and turning and as your brain wakes up a little voice in your
head starts nagging you with doubts and fears about money…"
(4) How To Motivate Yourself In Tough Times
(5) Dealing with the long haul
Next Article: Seeing Is Believing Or Is It?
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