When we talk of "myself" this is the conventional way of referring to our self image which is in fact the ego's construction of its sense of self.
I find it helpful to imagine the ego as our operating system and absolutely essential, in the same way "Windows 10" is essential for successful functioning of our laptops. It thinks it controls everything.
But as with "Windows 10", however clever it is, it is just a piece of software. So when we say me, myself or I, metaphorically, think of “Windows 10" with self awareness!
As we practice mindfulness, we find that in the spaces between our thoughts, we begin to experience that we are far more than this limited and conventional sense of self. We are not “Windows 10”!
The higher self
As we experience this we realise that we have a spiritual or energetic self and also that we have many unconscious aspects or selves that fall outside of the control of "Windows 10".
The unconscious mind
To extend the computer analogy think of our unconscious aspects or selves as the BIOS (the programme embedded on a chip on a computer's motherboard that recognizes and controls various devices that make up the computer).
The whole self
So to pull this together, when we talk of myself or I, what we are really referring to is the totality of all of it - of all of our unconscious aspects or selves, our conscious self (plus all its resources) and our spiritual self or higher self.
Where it all goes horribly wrong
Given that we are fundamentally energetic beings existing in an energetic universe we need to understand, relate to and work with our higher self. It is the portal to, in the conventional sense, everything "out there".
However, ”Windows 10” is not an energetic being but it thinks it is!
Its sphere of operation is defined by our sensory perceptions. For "Windows 10" seeing is believing. Because its role is to control it thinks it does (or should) control everything. This is, of course, a major delusion. This is where the whole teaching in mainstream belief systems of "dying to the self" or "dropping the self" comes into play.
The BIOS is just the BIOS. It comprises large numbers of programmes or selves that we can associate with an activity or an attitude. For example "smoking self" or "happy self".
In the realm of the BIOS there is no right or wrong, no better or worse, no value judgements, there are just programmes running automatically on repeat mode.
Because we exist in a realm of duality, for every self that exists or is created there is an opposite.
So, the opposite of smoking self is non-smoking self and the opposite of happy self is unhappy self.
This is why we said earlier, that when we deny, suppress or repress our negative thoughts it is a root cause of our suffering because we are denying a part of ourself.
To stop smoking we have to accept smoking self and consciously choose non smoking self.
However the choice alone is not enough, it needs to be empowered and this power comes from our higher self - when we ask it.
Introducing The Tools
Here are 4 sets of tools that each work with one or more areas of our whole self:
(1) Energy Tools - that work with and through our higher self
(2) Cognitive Tools - that work through our conscious self
(3) Programming Tools - that work with our unconscious selves
(4) Big Mind Tools - that work with the whole self