Today has been a day of mind games.
I've been doing quite well recently and feeling good about myself and the quality of my writing and the number of articles I have been able to write over the past week. Various other business and personal projects have been progressing nicely.
This morning was the beginning of a not-so-good day.
I sat down first thing with my early morning cup of Vietnamese coffee before heading off to the gym and I opened my email and got off to a bad start.
There was an irritating message telling me that a cost saving exercise I was trying to initiate on one of my businesses was actually going to cost more money and regardless of which of the available options I took it was still going to cost me more money.
A friend and colleague who is running my social media campaign messaged to say she was sick [again] and unable to work today.
So to cheer myself up I checked the stats on my website and OMG the daily visitor count was down yesterday!
I then checked the stats on my social media campaign and the stats were neither up nor down but static overnight and that irritated me.
I decided to have another look at cash-flow forecasts for this month... this was interrupted by a business call from Singapore during which I re-explained the finer points of a current deal to a colleague...
I looked at the time and I was by now an hour late leaving to go to the gym. But following my own advice in an article I wrote yesterday I just did it and went to the gym.
Then as I drove the short distance to the gym my mind was flooded with negative thoughts about the various frustrations and irritations in my life.
By the time I got to the gym I was feeling thoroughly hacked-off with life.
Fortunately I have been doing mindfulness practice for a long time now so from the other side of my head I could hear a little voice whispering:
"Don't you think you are over-reacting to all this... be mindful..."
As the day progressed I became very observant of the currents of my emotional reactions to the earlier events and I watched their ebb and flow rather like the currents in the tidal estuary that my apartment overlooks.
By late afternoon I had taken a serious step back and was in a mindful state of observation and reflection and it occurred to me how ironic it was that despite 20 + years of mindfulness practice, and many years of writing articles on how to think effectively and how to stop thinking, I still fall into the old grooves and bad mental habits.
The Realisation
Then it hit me:
Here are 6 useful take-ways courtesy of Eckhart Tolle:
[1] Watch the thinker - start listening to the voices in your head
As often as you can, pay particular attention to any repetitive thought
patterns, those tracks that have been playing in your head for many years.
[2] Focus your attention into the now
Become intensely conscious of the present moment. You can measure your success in this practice by the amount of peace that you feel.
[3] Look at your emotions - your body's reaction to your mind
The more you are identified with your thinking, your likes and dislikes,
judgments and interpretations - and the less present you are
as the watching consciousness - the emotional energy charge
will be stronger whether you are aware of it or not.
[4] Watch out for any kind of defensiveness within yourself
What are you defending? Is it an illusory identity, an image in your
mind, a fictitious entity? By making this pattern conscious, by observing it, you stop identifying with it. In the light of your
conscious-awareness, the unconscious pattern will then quickly dissolve.
[5] End the delusion of time by letting go of psychological time
Time and mind are inseparable. Remove time from the mind and it stops - unless you choose to use it. To be identified with your mind is to be trapped in time. Step out of the time dimension as much as possible in everyday life. If you find it hard to enter the Now directly, start by observing the habitual tendency of your mind to be in the past or future.
[6] Connect with your inner body
Direct your attention into the body. Feel it from within. Is it alive? Can you feel the subtle energy field that pervades the entire body and gives vibrant life to every organ and every cell? Keep focusing on the feeling of your inner body for a few moments. Do not start to think about it. Feel it.
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