The way our minds work, we automatically create what we perceive to be MY life, MY job, and MY financial security and it is usually all nicely packaged up with clear boundaries defining my own personal sense of who I am and how things are.
It's my life
This perspective is popularised in modern culture by bands such as Bon Jovi "Its my life, its now or never, I ain't gonna live forever.." and in a previous age with Frank Sinatra and "My Way".
Inner map of reality
We develop our own unique inner map of reality shaped by our own personal early influences and from this we develop our own personal beliefs based on that map (largely unconsciously) to navigate us through life and primarily to keep us safe.
Functioning, as we do, in this way - things are seen as separate and largely static, our perception and general experience is that time proceeds in a linear manner from past to future, there is "me here" and the world "out there", and there are events and things that I don't like that happen to me.
This is our default setting – and so much of what we do is motivated by our deep inbuilt need to keep things as they are - to preserve the boundaries around "my life" - to preserve MY survival and MY safety and MY comfort.
Change and loss of control
So change – and especially imposed change - becomes something to be avoided and/or resisted, unless it’s on my terms and within my control.
This immediately creates a problem for most of us because we are now living through times of great turbulence and many of us are experiencing imposed change that seriously affects all areas of MY life.
The scale and pace of change that we are all experiencing is faster than our capacity to cope with it.
Alternative perspectives
But there is another perspective and one that forms a common thread in several major belief systems and philosophical outlooks.
The terminology and language is different, but as we established in The Duck Test, if they all point in the same direction to what appears to be a universal or generic truth then it is likely that is what it is.
The Christian faith, especially in the teachings of St Paul, speaks of "dying to self" and allowing the spirit, or consciousness, of Christ to live through you.
Buddhists refer to "dropping the ego" and allowing the bodhicitta [the mind of enlightenment] to develop withing you.
Both of these two phrases dying to self & dropping the ego are Christian and Buddhist expressions of the same fundamental truth - the need to correct the inbuilt, hardwired tendency to assume that everything revolves around "me".
Dying to self & dropping the ego is all about:
[1] Understanding the functions of your mind and your selves and developing a good working relationship with them.
[2] Understanding where, and why, it all goes horribly wrong because of:
In Zen practice "Non-Attached Mind" [Mushotoku] is a mindset that does not seek to acquire or gain anything and that has no attachment to objects and outcomes.
This mindset transcends dualities and also involves an inner letting go of the ego.
As we already noted, these alternative perspectives all point to some form of major inner realignment whereby a greater consciousness emerges and expresses itself through us. Here is a personal experience that I shared about something that happened to me about 15 years ago. The teachings in the Tao Te Ching also point to a major realignment of how we normally function. This is about a 180 degree shift from living MY life to a life that is lived by the Tao. This is difficult for the natural egoic mind to comprehend as it requires a renewal of your mind. This
all takes work and effort as the human mind runs on deeply ingrained and
habitual patterns of thought. Neural pathways in your brain get stronger
with repetition and you will be training your brain to establish new
pathways through new activities, new patterns of thought, and new
behaviour. Based on my own personal experiences I recommend the following 3 core practices and 2 applied practices as a means of renewal. Each
of the links below will take you to a page which explains how to do the
practice and offers additional supporting resources. Core Practices "Can you coax your mind from its wandering "The Master sees things as they are, "Immersed in the wonder of the Tao, "Be content with what you have; Applied Practices "When the ancient Masters said, "In the pursuit of knowledge,
Its My Life Or Is It - A Major Realignment
Renewing your mind is based on practices, not beliefs, that will have a
profound and positive effect on your life.
and keep to the original oneness?
Can you step back from your own mind
and thus understand all things?" [10]
without trying to control them." [29]
you can deal with whatever life brings you,
and when death comes, you are ready." [16]
rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking,
the whole world belongs to you." [44]
'If you want to be given everything,
give everything up,'
they weren't using empty phrases
Only in being lived by the Tao
can you truly be yourself." [22]
every day something is added.
In the practice of the Tao,
every day something is dropped.
Less and less do you need to force things,
until finally you arrive at non-action.
When nothing is done,
nothing is left undone." [48]
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