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How To Trust The Process Mindfully
When we talk about how to trust the process mindfully, we are talking about the fundamental mindset that will help you to trust a recommended process that you are committing to following.
In this short article we are going to apply this mindset to the process of practicing mindfulness.
# The Process = This Present Moment
In mindfulness, the process isn’t some distant goal — it's what is happening right now.
- Breathing in, breathing out.
- Noticing a thought arise.
- Feeling tension in the body.
- Hearing a sound.
# Non-Striving
Mindfulness teaches us that trying to achieve a state — peace, stillness, enlightenment — often gets in the way.
Jon Kabat-Zinn calls this non-striving:
Trusting the process means letting go of the desire to "fix" or "improve" every moment, and instead resting in the unfolding.
# Impermanence and Change
Everything shifts: emotions, sensations, thoughts, moods.
- Pain arises
- Pain passes
- Joy arises
- Joy passes.
# Patience and Faith
In mindfulness practice, sometimes you feel nothing is happening. Or you may feel frustration, boredom, even failure.
Trusting the process means having faith that simply sitting, breathing, noticing - over time - leads to transformation, even if the change is subtle and slow.
As Thich Nhat Hanh might say:
“We don’t need to chase after anything. Everything we need is already here, in this moment.”
In summary:
Mindful Practice, Teaching and Metaphor
Here is a:
- Simple practice to help cultivate this
- Zen teaching on trusting the process
- Metaphor to deepen the understanding.
# Simple Practice: "Letting Be" Meditation
You can do this in just 5–10 minutes.
- Sit comfortably. Feel your body supported by the earth.
- Bring attention to your breath. No need to control it. Just feel it.
- As thoughts, emotions, or body sensations arise, silently say to yourself: “Let it be.”
- You don’t need to analyze, judge, or fix anything. Allow the experience to come and go naturally.
- If you
feel tension or restlessness, acknowledge it gently:
“This too is part of the process.” - Keep returning to breath and presence, with an attitude of patience.
Zen Teaching: The Farmer's Luck
This is an old Zen parable you may have heard,
but it beautifully embodies trusting the process:
- There was once a farmer. One day, his horse
ran away. His neighbor said: “Such bad luck!”
The farmer replied: “Maybe yes, maybe no.” - The next day, the horse returned, bringing
three wild horses with it.
The neighbor said: “Such good luck!”
The farmer replied: “Maybe yes, maybe no.” - Later, the farmer's son tried to ride one of
the wild horses, fell, and broke his leg.
The neighbor said, “Such bad luck!”
The farmer replied, “Maybe yes, maybe no.” - Soon after, soldiers came to the village to
recruit young men for war. Because of his broken leg, the son was spared.
The neighbor said, “Such good luck!”
The farmer replied, “Maybe yes, maybe no.”
Lesson of "The Farmer's Luck":
Metaphor: The Bamboo and the Oak
Imagine two trees in a storm: the strong oak
and the supple bamboo.
- The oak resists, trying to hold firm against the wind. Eventually, its rigid trunk may snap.
- The bamboo bends with the wind, sways, and returns to upright when the storm passes.
All together, these point toward one deep truth in mindfulness:
Mindful Reminder, Reading and Koan
Here is a:
- Daily reminder phrase you can carry
- Deeper reading suggestion
- Short koan practice for contemplation.
A Daily Reminder Phrase
A simple phrase you can silently repeat throughout your day, especially when facing frustration or uncertainty:
“I trust this moment to unfold as it must. I release control, and I am here.”
You can say it when:
- you feel impatient
- you're caught in worry
- you're facing unexpected change
- or even when you're simply breathing.
These quiet reminders gently train the mind to return to trust.
A Deeper Reading Suggestion
"Wherever You Go, There You Are" — Jon Kabat-Zinn
This is one of the most accessible and profound introductions to mindfulness.
Many chapters touch on trusting the process — especially his teachings on non-doing, patience, and letting be.
Short quote from the book:
“You can’t make a flower grow by pulling on it. You can only give it the conditions to grow and let nature take its course.”
This is exactly the heart of trusting the process.
A Short Koan Practice
Koans are short Zen sayings or stories meant to help loosen our attachment to logical mind and invite insight.
Here’s a simple one:
"Sitting quietly, doing nothing,
Spring comes, and the grass grows by itself."
How to practice with it:
- Sit quietly for a few minutes.
- Gently repeat the koan in your mind.
- Let the words sink in.
- Don't analyze — simply feel the meaning in your body.
- Notice any feelings of relaxation, surrender, or trust that arise.
Over time, this koan can open up layers of insight into what it means to allow life to unfold.
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