"The Art Of Saying No" is the title of a popular book by Damon Zahariades who specialises in writing and producing material on time management, improving personal productivity and developing habits to reinforce these skills.
The key themes of this book are learning how to:
This article is about WHY you need to practise the art of saying no.
If you are clear about the "Why?" then the "How?" will follow because you will have the motivation.
This site is for people who are experiencing tough times, to show you how to cope in tough times, and to provide you with the tools to do this successfully.
The focus of this site is on learning how to think effectively, learning how to not think, and acquiring the skills to improve your responses to the events and situations that you encounter in life.
The bedrock of all this is that the stronger your responses are to what happens to you in life - the better will be the outcomes that you experience.
Let's ask 3 big questions then follow that with 2 big pegs in the ground :
 What is your core desire? Why are you here? What is your direction of travel?
 What is your point of focus? Are you clear on what you want out of life?
 What is your life purpose? If
you knew you were going to die tonight and you were given a few minutes
to reflect before that happened, what would you say was the meaning of
These are big questions and you may be wondering what all this has to do with an article on the art of saying no?
My response to that is to suggest that:
2 PEGS IN THE GROUND
The One Thing - a process for:
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